A fundamental truth, no? I think we can all agree. But have you ever noticed that this can go both ways? I think it’s far too easy for us to get caught up in all the negative whirling around us, whether it’s tragedy on the news or a bombardment of comparison on social media. We forget just how much we have to be grateful for.
This probably makes me sound super optimistic, like, “ugh ok but you don’t know my life and it’s actually really hard right now so I have a right to complain and you just need to stop.” Let me be the first to tell you, “you are right and your feelings are validated, at least in my book.” But anyone who knows me, knows that it takes a ton of hard work for me to keep my head up, so I wanted to share something that has helped me a ton.
A few years ago a friend of mine made a list of 100 things she was grateful for. I was confused how she came up with so many, until she started to share them with me. They were things like a certain person’s smile, another’s laugh, a chance encounter, and my incessant habit of twirling my hair.
That got me to thinking– religious or not– how many things, wonderful things, happen everyday and we just don’t notice? We so easily remember when that jerk cut us off, when it took forever for our lunch order to be ready, or how you forgot to rotate the laundry last night and you didn’t notice until AFTER work today and now it kinda smells moldy…so there goes your plans of snuggling up in your favorite sweatpants and watching your shows.
Why is it that we don’t remember how a friend made us laugh or we got a picture of our niece smiling or bae (everyone has one, not necessarily a “significant other”) sent you a meme. Or maybe your drink tastes just right or the cookie is warm or the last stall was free in the bathroom and you got it right before a big rush when you really had to pee.
You see, the world owes us nothing. We are entitled to nothing. But there is so much good to be recognized. There is beauty to be enjoyed and happiness to be shared. Life is so full of negativity and bad things will inevitably happen, but that doesn’t mean we have to be miserable. If you want something in life you have to go out there and get it. It takes work- but that doesn’t mean it has to be boring. Make life exciting. Chase your passions and follow your drive. See where it takes you. Put on your rain boots. Cry- in frustration- if you must. But promise me, whatever you do, get drenched.